A shirt I got our son for Christmas -
he had enough grace to laugh at it,
and said he'd wear it for his teacher next week.
I really think there should be something called Special Needs Sibling Syndrome. As hard as it is to be the parent of a child with special needs, it's got to be just as difficult to have a brother or sister with special needs. I've thought that a number of times over the years since our daughter was born, and more frequently as she's gotten older. This morning I wasn't even awake before she was upstairs, in bed with me, upset about yet another difficult interaction with her older brother.
It's been hard for her, living with her brother. Sometimes he can be quite nice and considerate, but other times he can be quite rude or mean to her, downright selfish and nasty, and his behavior can change with whiplash speed. Some of that is just typical brother behavior, and typical moody preteen boy stuff, but sometimes it is definitely related to his AS. Younger siblings just aren't born equipped to deal with that kind of stress in a family relationship. When our daughter was younger, we explained to her that her brother was a bit different than other kids, more impatient, less able to control his impulses, and sensitive in ways most people aren't. That seemed to be enough of an explanation for her, for a time.
Do any of you have helpful advice about dealing with siblings of your special needs children or grandchildren? I'm always open for new ways to handle this issue.