Sunday, August 11, 2013

Make the Best of It

I wish our whole summer had been this relaxing!

It's been a summer of changes around here.  Generally, I'm not that enamored of change - I like predictability, and stability.  I like roots, traditions, and the comfort of the everyday.  I'm not comfortable with rapid or drastic change, both of which have been a part of our lives recently.  I'm learning to roll with the changes, and I'm trying to make the best of them.

I guess that's been my mantra for most of my adult life:  "Make the best of it."  Whatever it is, find the good in it, or make good out of it.  If I don't look for the best, I won't find it, so I have to at least try.  Everything happens for a purpose. ("And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose."  Romans 8:28)  So here I am again, trying to make lemonade out of lemons, and trusting the Lord for the sugar to do so.

I'm still job hunting.  I'm still employed as a sub in our local district, and school starts here in a few weeks or so, but sooner rather than later I need a real, permanent, insurance-bearing, retirement-funding kind of job.  I've sent a handful of applications out, but this is the summer doldrums - most schools have already hired for the year, and office staff and school boards in NY are on vacation now.  There is likely to be a flurry of last-minute jobs posted right before school starts, from sudden retirements or illnesses or whatever, so I may score one of those, but at this point the odds are I'll be subbing and hoping for a mid-year opening locally.  If nothing comes along locally (i.e. within a half hour or so drive of our house), I'll look farther afield, knowing that that might involve a move immediately or later on, which is a whole other world of change I'm not eager to embrace again, but I will if I have to.

I'll make the best of it.

The kids are discombobulated with the changes in our household.  Safety Guy is angry, but doesn't want to talk about it with me.  He at least will talk to his counselor.  SG is also anxious about returning to school, and I can't blame him after how last year ended.  He did get his fall schedule a few days ago, and I know all but one of the teachers (the new resource teacher).  I think one class has the potential to be an issue, but I'm hoping for the best.  SG's best friend has moved to another district, and that's sad for both SG and E.  Hopefully we can get the guys together occasionally, and there's always FB and their cell phones.  The Princess also doesn't want to talk much about the changes, but she's had a busy summer and seems to be rolling with the ups and downs a little more easily than her brother.  The idea of leaving her stable bothers her as much as the possibility of leaving her two best friends.

Neither kid likes the idea of a move, but I've been honest with them - where we live a year from now depends totally on where I can get a permanent job.  I don't want a move to be a surprise.  I have to prepare them as best I can ahead of time, and they're not little kids any more, like they were with the last move.  Life is full of changes.

They also need to learn to make the best of the circumstances they find themselves in.

Safety Guy is a "glass half empty" kind of guy.  Making the best of things doesn't come naturally to him, but he's slowly learning.  His sister is the mistress of the quick retort and the last word, which isn't any more helpful.  I need to make some big posters to put in the house:  

"If you can't make a situation BETTER, at least don't make it WORSE."  

Or, "YOU are responsible for YOU."  

Or, "Don't complain about it if you're not willing to help make it better."  

Or, "Be part of the solution, not part of the problem."

Or, "BE KIND.  If it isn't kind or appropriate, keep your mouth shut!"


Anyhow, we're making the best of it as we go.  And who can do more than that?